Beyond suffering

If I am not mistaken, lots of people enjoy suffering, and I am not excluding myself from this equation. I remember times when I drag myself consciously to a past memory and start crying, even if that memory doesn’t mean anything to me now. Do I love crying? Well most women do. Maybe it is kind of releasing some emotions that needed to be released and didn’t complete the releasing and healing process. I wish this is the case. Or maybe it is the ups and down of my biological cycle that make me feel I am not in my body!
I am not giving myself excuses, but it happens to me, and I am sure it happens to men and woman regardless of the reason. The thing is after wiping my tears I take myself consciously also to a state where I feel happy and joy about it, since I know that going down in unpleasant memories lower the vibration. And after raising my vibration again I start laughing about myself and telling myself how crazy I am for remembering these things. It is a human nature, but the thing is we need to detach from out pain to heal and to live amazing life.
Once I was talking to a woman who lost her child directly after delivery. It happened about two years ago, and she is still suffering. She told me that the incident changed her life completely and she couldn’t forget it. She said that she had lost the taste of life and she felt that she was not happy any more. She can’t feel any emotions towards anything, even towards her lovely alive and healthy two kids. I tried to explain to her that she needed to detach to be able to live happy. Her answer was “You don’t know the feeling, and no one can imagine how much she is suffering.”
She was insisting that she should suffer, and she was giving herself good excuses for that. I am not saying that what she went through was easy, but it is one life experience that she should learn from then release and allow the healing to happen.
In Caroline Myss book “Why people don’t Heal”, she mentioned that people attach themselves to the abuse or pain that happened to them and start dumping all their suffering on that event. People refuse to detach since they will lose the calming strategy for them, the big excuse for their suffering.
When I got separated at 2017, I followed that pattern; I tried to dump all my misery on the separation, I couldn’t stop talking about it. Yes, it caused me more pain that healing, and I don’t understand or know why I did that, even though the separation gave me the opportunity to live an amazing life. For the same reason I understand why people enjoy being stuck in pain and talking about their suffering. Put in mind that you have one of two choices: detach, and heal then live be happy. Or suffer and drag yourself through more pain.
Honestly the equation is simple, you either use the energy to live happy and enjoy your life. Or keep sending the energy to your wound and deprive your body from the energy and cause a mental or physical illness to manifest in your body.
Suffering happens to us, to teach us, to liberate us. It is a tool to teach us how to nail it in life and live fully.

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