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At every instant in your life you are either expanding to Embrace Growth or Contracting to hold on and protect. What are you protecting?
Love and fear are opposite sides of the same vibration.
Love is not the absence of fear but Courage is the expansion of Love into fear.
Bringing light to ... Views: 956
Have you ever had a moment that you needed to be forgiven?
I have had many along the way.
There is something healing within that process, when it is genuinely given or received. Forgiveness is not forgiveness if we seek it or gives it from a negative place, or to show we are better than, or ... Views: 1412
It just seems to come out of the blue. That "Let's take a break" moment when it seems like your relationship is in danger. Your life seems to be caving in on you and your heart is left in ruins. Sure your friend and family are trying to comfort you and make you feel better, but they really don't ... Views: 2010
Brokenness is the theme of the first Beatitude. The significance of being poor in spirit is simply that, as long as I was living my life under the fallacious notion that I was self-sufficient, I thought that I didn't need God in my life. I now realize that our need to love and know that we are ... Views: 3507
When we feel resentment we believe that someone, or something has wronged us in some way. When we feel resentful, we tend to feel negative emotions such as anger, spite, hurt and irritation.
Examples of Resentment include:
• Feeling angry against a person or group of people whom you feel ... Views: 8176
I know that most people would say that an affair is the worst sin that a spouse could commit. I remember growing up as a child this is what I heard from my mother. The reason that she decided to leave my father was because he had cheated. So, all of my childhood and teenage years I looked at ... Views: 2923
I have been in the Christian community all of my life, but I cannot remember one time ever hearing someone teach on affairs in the church. I remember hearing about preachers cheating, the deacon cheating and the church secretaries cheating but never hearing or seeing this issue being dealt with ... Views: 4101
Making the right decision at this emotional crossroad will affect you, your spouse and your children. Due to the nature and the pain of dealing with an affair, it is very important not to make decisions from the emotions of anger or bitterness. This is the time in your life where deeply rooted ... Views: 2244
Not long ago, I saw an online video of a woman who described the wondrous things that manifested in her life once she forgave the man who killed her daughter. She said she worked hard to forgive - it took her several days.
I start screaming at the screen, "Several days! Honey, you think ... Views: 2089
The last two months of the year usually finds us in a frantic state of shopping, decorating, cooking and traveling, so is it any wonder we are more stressed than cheerful. Having so many "to do" lists, we are wound up and too exhausted to enjoy that which normally makes us happy, as in ... Views: 8771
Can you picture to yourself a world in which we are able to trust each other, without doubts or hesitations? Hard to imagine such a thing, isn’t it? Yet there are clear, readily available steps we can each take to start to make our personal world much less a place of anxieties, fears and worries ... Views: 1427
Is it really possible, or practical, to forgive and forget if someone is only going to repeat abusive and harmful behaviors? It is, but it requires a little more clarity on the entire process of boundary setting in conjunction with forgiveness.
In the past several years I have become even ... Views: 2328
If you've got love in your heart, whatever you do from that moment out is likely to be right. If you've got that one true note ringing inside you, then whatever you do is going to be OK. It's love, always love.
- Ken Kesey
On Valentine's Day we focus on ... Views: 1501
Forgiveness. That can be a very tough concept. When someone has hurt you, should you forgive them? Do you want to forgive them? What happens if you choose not to? What happens to you if you chose to forgive?
I have worked with many couple where there has been infidelity. This is a very ... Views: 1467
You may be living with someone you have lived with in a previous lifetime. Souls are drawn back together for many reasons. It could be a strong emotional connection or a Karmic debt that draws the two souls back together. On the other hand, souls may reunite to facilitate their further ... Views: 1594
The room is filled with people. Old, young, men, women, different styles, different postures, open curious faces, closed sceptical ones, intent, cautious, waiting. Bert Hellinger sits calmly at the front of the large, airy room, the well-known smile resting comfortably on his face. We have come ... Views: 1692
... but it does.
I hear this from clients: “Grrr. I’m so mad at her. I can’t believe she did that! She does this all the time. Why do I let it get to me so much?!” Or something along those lines anyway.
Sound familiar?
I’m sure you can think of a time where (1) you were frustrated with ... Views: 1015
Recent research has supported the benefits of forgiveness, especially its health benefits through the reduction of stress and negative emotion. So why do we often hesitate to forgive? Often our resistance to forgiveness is based on fear.
What do we fear about forgiveness? Some of my students ... Views: 1559
Dear Friends
Part XXXVI - Some early morning thoughts:
. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
. Forgiving is all about letting go of: anger, resentment, sorrow and the victim ... Views: 1111
The nation looks on in horror at the interminable orgy of true confessions from Governor Sanford -- voluntarily decimating his political career by bogarting a spotlight rightfully passed to recently departed celebrities. Any psychologically aware person must ask: Why?
Were the constraints of ... Views: 863
Forgiveness is a very popular concept. Everyone who is interested in self healing and personal development is talking about forgiveness and how that is being compassionate etc. However, many people find it difficult or impossible to truly forgive. Some people may think they have forgiven, but ... Views: 1197
Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25)
Managing conflict sometimes means ... Views: 1412
It is important to understand the difference between roles in the family (environment) and someone's place in the family.
All too often, people are ostracized from a family due to their inability or unwillingness to fulfil certain roles within it.
Sometimes that inability or unwillingness may ... Views: 1734
I am often asked why I write these journal entries or articles on a monthly basis and not long ago I would have probably thought that I would be silly to do such a thing. Oh well, I have changed and it is what it is. I would not call myself an author, but just someone who enjoys speaking with ... Views: 1092
Question:
First of all I want to thank you from my heart very much for changing my life. You put the light on my way to get to know God better than ever! Your words are just the message that God ever wanted me to know!
I have a question for long time:
In the law of karma what happens ... Views: 1420
So often illness can be an habitual response to old stimuli. When I’m stuck in old patterns, I use an updated version of an ancient Hawaiian healing practice called Ho’oponopono. (hoe-oh-PO-no-PO-no) The four powerful phrases are a tool for forgiveness, reconciliation and transmutation of old ... Views: 1252
When someone’s actions create pain for us, it is natural to engage in an inner conversation of resentment. The mind replays the offense, repeating the stories over and over. My wife betrayed me. My father destroyed my trust. My partner didn’t come through for me. And so on. The dialogue of blame ... Views: 1037
I had a client once who was struggling to let go of the lingering anger she was still feeling for her former boyfriend who had broken up with her a few months before. The good news was that because of this break up, my client's life was literally exploding with exciting new possibilities and ... Views: 1216
In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt.
Hurt feelings will occur in friendships, in intimate relationships, and even between two ... Views: 1885
I didn’t realize it at first, but they happened on the same day.
On Saturday morning I am taking a walk with a friend. We cover our familiar route, knowing the circuit automatically in our steps. We are on the home stretch of the walk, moving down a country lane, all green and leafy. Out of ... Views: 3794
Here is an excerpt from the book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”
A life-altering conversation
Only about a month later I would have a conversation with my friend Kent that would change my life forever. I call this day the most important day of my life. I had an epiphany. ... Views: 1089
In my many years of being an Energy Intuitive and working on literally thousands of people, the one attribute that I've found that helps people heal more fully than any other is that of FORGIVENESS.
Forgiveness releases us from the past. It is the answer to almost everything. When we are ... Views: 1905
FIVE WAYS TO GET HER BACK NOW!
She says she’s had enough and that it’s over, but you reckon there is still something worth saving in your relationship. Breaking up is never easy, but there’s every chance that you could win your lady back. Our quick five tips on how to how to get her back ... Views: 802
Relationships break up for any number of reasons. There are times when a relationship just isn't meant to be and other times, the break up is caused by something trivial that is said in the heat of the moment. Women tend to have a very good reason to end a relationship, but there are some guys ... Views: 1042
If you have recently broken up with your ex, then you may have noticed some positive signs your ex wants you back. Relationships do end sometimes for reasons that may be wrong. Sometimes they end for childish reasons such as arguments that one may say and did not mean, Or taking the relationship ... Views: 6425
The Blame Game is a game we ALL play very well and sadly enough, often. In fact, we have become such masters in it because we played the game most of our lives. We tend to blame our family, friends, spouses, neighbors, pets, co-workers, our boss, our kids, and so on and so on, just about ... Views: 2749
Justice or mercy? The more emotional the issue, the more divided the opinions. We often encounter issues that tempt us to decide: should we insist on justice, knowing that justice always have consequences? Should we show mercy and always try and understand the other side of the coin? Or ... Views: 1281
Let's face it, throughout our lives we do the best we can do based on what we feel we are capable of. We do our best to get things right. We ate our vegetables, studied hard in school, learn to love, got married to our sweetheart, went out and got a good jobs. We then raised smart kids, and ... Views: 1518
My Mom is an alcoholic.
Words that were so hard for me to say out loud. It was forbidden to say it at home and the words seemed stuck. For years we pretended everything was great with our little perfect family. Dad made good money, they traveled, socialized every weekend, had nice cars and a ... Views: 3832
Forgiveness is a topic that has come up quite a bit lately not only in my practice, but in my personal life. Many people have the mistaken idea that if you forgive someone you say what they did that hurt you was okay. Forgiveness really is about letting go of the negative energy you have ... Views: 2518
I am reminded today of the fact that all we have is this present moment. We can’t be anywhere else than where we are right now. We can’t, by sheer willpower – in this moment -- make ourselves into something we are not. No matter how fiercely we may want to.
Years ago, my heart was broken by a ... Views: 866
Giving of oneself this is a challenge for many people and often around holidays seems to be on the minds of everyone I speak with. Am I giving enough? Am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give? These are some of the questions that my ... Views: 1217
Are You Looking For A Way To "Break The Ice" and have a shot at getting back with your ex?
Obviously, it is better to MAKE UP before the relationship completely collapses and breaks up forever. "We want a way to deal with the emotions we are having, going through this very tough time."
All ... Views: 956
The soul loves to forgive!
Catherine Ponder said: "When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
Forgiveness is something that needs to ... Views: 1598
Forgiveness is the only path that leads us out of hell. Forgiveness is letting go. It is surrendering. It is giving up the need to be right. It is finally admitting to yourself that you are open and willing to live your life another way. That way is through the door of forgiveness. If you ... Views: 2480
The healing power of forgiveness is like nothing you've experienced before. What most people don't understand is that when they forgive, really forgive, they actually set themselves free. It is the one who holds the pain or anger, or whatever the emotion is inside them that suffers most. The ... Views: 1489
Have you ever felt like you were holding a grudge against someone, even after you had consciously tried to forgive?
All of us, at one time or another, need to forgive. It may be our spouse or a friend. It may be a co-worker or a former employer. After the mortgage and financial crises, some ... Views: 2701
No one gets through life without being hurt by another person. We all have experienced the pain of a thoughtless remark, gossip, or lie. If you have experienced an unhappy marriage, the devastation of infidelity, or suffered physical or emotional abuse, you know what it feels like to be hurt. It ... Views: 1614
Forgiveness will give you the freedom you search for. You remain trapped in your heart, your life. You search and search, when all that is needed is the release of a hard heart. What is it that someone can do, that you cannot release to God?
You know, God will search your heart. Allow ... Views: 1550
Having had a very difficult past wrought in domestic violence and relationship dysfunction it occurred to me recently that it would be better to forgive those who wronged me in the past than to hang on to the negative energy I held within me through horrible memories and unresolved feelings and ... Views: 2545